WORDS CONVEYING POSITIVE STROKES
According to TA a Stroke can be defined as "one unit of recognition". When I say "Hello!" to you, I give you a stroke. Strokes can be positive or negative, verbal and non-verbal, conditional or unconditional. In this post I will write about positive verbal strokes and give you examples of words you can use in your everyday conversations to create more positive and constructive results.
March 21, 2017
by Bali Polyanki
I like observing people around me. Today while having my lunch in a spacious canteen I saw people using their cell phones at their tables, as usual. Only a few of them were talking. Most of them seemed to be texting, chatting or browsing. It did not matter if they were sitting alone or with others. I decided to review some articles written about smart phone usage and nonverbal communication. Here is what I found.
April 01, 2017
by Bali Polyanki
There are nonverbal signs of happiness or fear, boredom or pain as well as love or hate. In this post I am having a closer look at the body language components of vulnerability. If you think of a person who is vulnerable, what picture comes to your mind? Can you see a child or an old person? Do you see a man or a woman? Is it in a hospital, in an office or in a street? What does "being vulnerable" mean to you? By the Merriam-Webster dictionary the definition of vulnerable is (1) capable of being physically or emotionally wounded; (2) open to attack or damage. My goal with this post is twofold. First, ...
April 14, 2017
by Bali Polyanki
Time after time my clients talk about the relationship with their boss. I hear lots of great examples but sometimes they tell me something like "She is like my mother" "He reminds me of my father when he is angry". In other words they feel bad, discounted or suppressed by their boss due to the transactions they experience.
April 28, 2017
by Bali Polyanki
According to dozens of studies there is strong evidence for the universal facial expressions of seven emotions - anger, contempt, disgust, fear, joy, sadness, and surprise. Some scientists call them as basic emotions.
May 09, 2017
by Bali Polyanki
In the light of the Mental Health Awareness Week (8th-14th May) , I intend to bring your attention to an alarming communication pattern you can experience at home, in the schools or in the office. I'll start with a brief story. Angela has worked for the company for six year. She applies for a new role. She gets it. She is part of a new team with some new faces.
August 06, 2017
by Bali Polyanki
Are you satisfied with your voice? How do you know if your vocal behavior (a.k.a. vocalics) is appropriate in a given business context when speaking with your colleagues, business partners or important stakeholders? What do you need to focus on when you wish to improve your voice?
September 17, 2017
by Bali Polyanki
In this post, I will give you a tool you can use in any social interaction with others - even over the phone or video calls. I call it the "OK Compass" and it derives from Transactional Analysis. I developed it based on Franklin H. Ernst's OK Corral (or Life Positions) from 1971.